2017 July 19 by Dr. Randy
Attachment parenting practices are based on the assumption and philosophy that a close relationship between you and your baby will result in a secure and confident child. Close means that you keep your baby close to your body nearly all the time. Attachment parenting implies three principles concerning the way you attend to your baby, breastfeeding on demand, babywearing, and bedsharing. None of these practices are new; people all over the world have applied these three principles to infant care since time immemorial. Breastfeeding on demand is an infant centered response to your baby’s natural needs. No external expectations or artificial schedules need to be engrafted on your baby’s instinctual desire to nurse when hungry or for comfort. Babywearing means that you usually carry your baby with you in your arms, or in a sling or a front carrier. This practice is taken for granted as appropriate in most cultures throughout the world. Wearing babies in a papoose or a sling is the accepted and expected mode of mothering in most areas of the world. Keeping your infant close to your body at night during sleep helps ensure the baby’s safety and health. Children learn bodily functions of breathing and sleep patterns from their parents’ bodies. This learning process requires close proximity and skin to skin contact. Attachment parenting is primitive, natural, and sensible.
Our culture has encouraged the separation of mother and baby for a number of reasons. We have mistakenly assumed that formula feeding is better than breastfeeding, discouraging mothers from sharing and exposing their breasts. We have isolated and neglected infants in separate rooms called nurseries. And we have incorrectly encouraged independence at an age when babies are completely dependent. None of these modern practices with infants help to develop healthy children. Babies need lots of touching, holding, and constant attention. Caring for your baby in this way is actually easier and simpler than instituting schedules and inflicting unnatural habits on this completely dependent and vulnerable little being.
2012 September 11 by Dr. Randy
A great deal of attention has been garnered in the media this week by a study published in the journal Pediatrics showing that sleep training methods used with babies have no negative effects on their later emotional lives. What these articles fail to mention is the large number of studies that show the benefits of parents cosleeping with their baby.
For a different perspective on solving sleep problems see my article published this week on the SAFBaby website.
Of all the problems babies and children can have, sleep is one that tends to disturb parents the most. When parents lose sleep they can be grouchy, exhausted, and overly emotional. Kids too. But a lot of children resist sleeping. Why shouldn’t they? Playing is more fun. Babies and older children may just have different ideas about the appropriate nighttime schedule than their parents. What is a parent to do?
Let’s start with babies.
How do babies learn to sleep? From their parents’ bodies and their parents’ biorhythms. Sleeping with your baby is the first and best gift you can give your baby to establish healthy sleep patterns. This will also help mothers get a good night sleep. It only makes sense. If your baby is sleeping next to you, then you don’t need to get up and go anywhere. Mothers and babies nurse, maybe change a diaper, and go back to sleep. Parents may be concerned that this easy access for nursing may encourage babies to wake up more often in the night. But getting up and going into another room to nurse is a lot more disturbing for moms…. (Read more)
2012 April 27 by Dr. Randy
There is a concerted campaign to dissuade parents from sleeping with their babies. The latest study published in the American Journal of Public Health attempts to prove that sleeping with your baby can cause death. This was a survey of statistics concerning babies who died unexpectedly. The data reveal that significantly more babies who died unexpectedly of SIDS (sudden infant death syndrome) were sleeping in a parental bed than sleeping alone in a crib. These statistics were taken from data over a three-year period in nine states to assess where babies who died of SIDS were sleeping when found. However, this study proves nothing.
A similar study could be done showing that more children develop asthma symptoms when outdoors. Should we then dissuade children from going outdoors or exercising? Or we could study low income families and discover that more of these children have asthma compared to children from more affluent families. Obviously other factors are present which would increase the risk of these children developing asthma such as poor nutrition or more exposure to pollution. Similarly there are risk factors that increase the likelihood of babies dying of SIDS, such as a parent’s use of alcohol, drugs, or sleeping pills. However, the greatest risk factor that remains relatively unknown is the toxic fumes that disperse from mattresses treated with fire retardants. Simply covering the mattress with plastic sheeting or using an organic mattress brings the incidence of SIDS to zero.
Maligning the family bed is a favorite pastime in conventional medicine. The vast majority of families in the world sleep with their babies, and SIDS incidence in those cultures is low. Many studies have shown the benefits of babies sleeping with a parent, including an increased incidence of breast feeding, better sleep for babies, more stable heart and breathing patterns, and greater confidence and security in babies. At least one other study has shown a fourfold decrease in SIDS in co-sleeping babies. All of these studies should reassure parents that the family bed is a safe and healthy choice for babies to sleep.
Schnitzer PG, Covington TM, Dykstra HK. Sudden Unexpected Infant Deaths: Sleep Environment and Circumstances. American Journal of Public Health. 2012 Apr 19. [Epub ahead of print]